I don’t want to be a Christian

Oh my gosh Connie!!! What are you saying?

Why would you even consider saying such a thing and then go as far as writing about it? What are you thinking? How could you, after all that God has blessed you with?

I can hear it now, for some, your first thought went immediately to the “Why, What, and How could you.….” Thank you for questioning and judging me before hearing me out.

Proven Point One: Reasons why non-believers struggle with Christians.

Judgement.  Almost instantly, at minimum, one of you when you read the heading your thoughts went to “exasperation”, “What, how could you?”

As Christians, we are supposed to be the ones being examples of Christ.  Yes, I know, “we are human and we are not perfect” that’s always the fallback of what people say. Like saying I’m sorry, only to repeat the same behavior, it becomes emptiness, blah, blah, blah.  Being an example of Christ means reflecting Jesus to those around you in a way that causes them to take notice of WHO is in you (CHRIST) and say, “they are different, I want what they have”. Unless our immediate thoughts, behavior and actions change, non-believers will continue to struggle with Christianity. Take a breath and think before you react when you hear or read something.  You wouldn’t jump off the Grand Canyon before thinking about it first, would you?

Proven Point Two: Reasons why non-believers struggle with Christians.

Hypocrisy, or hypocritical. Deceit, pretense.

How many times have you come across this?  We hear it all the time from non-believers.  What is hypocrisy?  For example, a Christ follower, while talking with an individual they call a “friend” shares in confidence they are gay. What happens? Are you loving this person with sincerity, with genuine agape love, and accepting them right where they are? Or, pretending because you don’t want to show you disapprove of their behavior?  Can I just say, is your behavior any better than theirs? It’s okay for you to judge them, but it’s not okay for them to be gay?  Are you Jesus?  Nope!  Your behavior, hypocritical and not any better than theirs.

Christianity is religion with standards, rules, and regulations according to the perception of most people, especially non-believers.

 “For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God [that is, His remarkable, overwhelming gift of grace to believers] is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)

 “Let us, therefore, be very cautious of adding sin to sin, that grace may abound, but rather fly from it as from the face of a serpent. We know not what is the number of our days determined by God, and we know not what is the number of our sins beyond which there is no forgiveness.” (The Bible Hub)

Honest, gut wrenching truth that we, as Christians, don’t want to hear, why? Because that means we should show how we really feel. “Don’t tell me what I need to hear because then I will have to face the truth, and well, I just can’t do that because my Christian friends will not like me, and then I won’t be a part of the crowd and they will judge me.” (Yes, Christians judge Christians) …. how Christian is that?  No one ever around Jesus felt judged…EVER.

So many questions arise when we hear the statement, “I don’t want to be a Christian”.  Unbelievably, I can understand why. Reflecting on how the world is now compared to 5 years ago, 10 years ago or even last year, Christians are getting a “bad” reputation.

I am an outcast, I am a believer in Christ Jesus, I am a Christian, and sometimes I am proud to be a Christ follower, and sometimes, I struggle with it.  Why?  I don’t want to be included as part of the Christian world where I hear non-believers say; “Christians are judgmental or hypocritical”.  This truly hurts my heart. I am first to admit I have been both judgmental and hypocritical, not a good moment that I am proud of, but I am honest and transparent about it.  Transformation into being the example of Christ is changing from the inside out, yes, we have all heard this over and over, apparently, it’s not sinking in to the minds and hearts of Christians as much as it should be.  If non-believers are still expressing to this day and beyond, “I don’t want to be a Christian”, shouldn’t Christians be reviewing their hearts by asking, “Am I serving God, or man?

“I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.” 

(Mahatma Ghandi )

Who, where and what are we seeking to find your approval? Ask yourself, “Am I trying to please people or God?” “What do I have to do to find where I belong?” Your value is found in Jesus, not the world.

Galatians 1:10, “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Christianity is not meant for all your problems to go “POOF” and instantly be gone. It’s not meant for you to feel comfortable, Christianity is not about “feelings” or “status” or the fancy emoji’s that we place next to our social media status.  As a suggestion only, maybe we should all reflect on why non-believers are distant from the Christian faith. When sharing with others, believers, and non-believers, express the love to them that God gives you daily, they deserve that just as much as you deserve Gods love.  You could be the seed that plants in their heart to accept the love that God so deeply has for them, desiring for them to have that relationship with Him and eternal salvation.  He wants ALL His children, not just the “in crowd”.  (Remember the parable of the lost sheep, Jesus went after the one and left His flock of ninety-nine for that ONE, Luke 15:4). Jesus wasn’t about who looked the best, or had the most, He was about the heart.  Christianity is about love, it only takes one person to reach out to another, be a friend and show a sincere genuine heart.  Every heart matters!

So, when someone says, “I don’t want to be a Christian” to you, what example of Christianity are you representing to lead individuals to make such a statement?

Christianity is about Grace, Forgiveness, and Love. Every heart matters and deserves the unconditional love that Jesus shows to you and me daily.

Jesus did not say they will know you are Christians by your hashtags.

(Good Life Church)

I know this blog is heavy on the heart, so, not to take away from the purpose of this message, let me just end by saying…

Fruitloop and cheerios

Smiles, Hugs and Abundant Love to everyone!

Lovingly Serving Christ,

Connie Ann

*Disclaimer – This blog is not intended to be judgmental by the words written, it is merely to relay a message of opening our minds and hearts to the truth.  Any feedback you have is welcomed, please leave your comments respectfully.  Thank you!


One comment

  • We are discussing this very exact topic in our Believe class at Christ’s Church and it makes my heart heavy too, knowing that the world views Christians as “troublemakers, hypocrites and outcasts”. I struggle to understand why the concept of LOVE and loving those around us is so challenging for many, and I always come back to the this thought; every one has been hurt in this world, by those that are close to them and also complete strangers. Over and over and over again. It makes it impossible for people to be vulnerable with others and accept the love that is there for them. I pray one day, our world will know how to overcome this. God bless you Connie!

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